So many men and women I meet have a huge ability to love and be loved, however, shut themselves down and don’t allow it. They are able to connect with a significant other in every way and are very good at making it seem they are moving forward in a direction of commitment until the point they are actually asked about it by their partner. They are lacking one very important quality. The ability to open up their hearts and minds to becoming a part of a relationship. I believe these type of people have several reasons in common that stop them from being able to make a commitment to another person.
Some people, regardless of what they lack—money, looks, or social connections—always radiate with energy and confidence. Even the most skeptical individuals find themselves enamored with these charming personalities.
These people are the life of every party. They’re the ones you turn to for help, advice, and companionship.
As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.
As I sit here writing at 12:30 a.m., I am trying to put into words how painfully difficult it is to get my head around my eldest son being grown up and leaving in two months. I know I should be thrilled and excited for him and his new adventures. I am. Really. It is just so hard to imagine my life in this house, in this town, and during my days without him. I am so mad at myself for allowing my sadness and fears to dampen my joy of this time with him.
A curious thing happened today. I felt gratitude for my ex-husband. I know shocking right? It is almost unheard of that anyone can feel a positive feeling towards one’s ex. This feeling and revelation that it is possible caused an emotional change in me. Here is what happened and ways you too can make peace with your ex-husband for yourself and your kids.
Anger is one of the most primal and powerful emotions we have. It comes from a place of instinctual survival when we feel threatened and feel the need to defend and protect ourselves. Fear lies beneath the anger and fuels it’s blaze. Anger is one of the most difficult emotions to control because it is not only a basic coping mechanism, but causes physical effects on the brain. According to Harry Mills Ph.D,
“How do I know if I’m in the right relationship or not?”
This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance: