So many men and women I meet have a huge ability to love and be loved, however, shut themselves down and don’t allow it. They are able to connect with a significant other in every way and are very good at making it seem they are moving forward in a direction of commitment until the point they are actually asked about it by their partner. They are lacking one very important quality. The ability to open up their hearts and minds to becoming a part of a relationship. I believe these type of people have several reasons in common that stop them from being able to make a commitment to another person.
As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.
We all have those people in our lives that have hurt us so badly or been so mean to us we simply can not forget.
When an incident happens in my life that is so horrific I know it will stick with me due to how another person behaves; I add that person to my Karma List. This does not mean I wish them harm. It means it makes me feel better to know that one day they will experience an equally horrible incident or someone will treat them even worse than they treated me or my loved ones, and hopefully they will learn from that experience and become a better person.
A couple of examples of people that are on my list are:
1. The mean boy in Junior High (yes we called it Junior High) that spit in my face and called me a “Dirty Jew.”
2. The mean women in my home town that…well were really hurtful and nasty and I still avoid them when I see them. They are really just mean girls who turned into mean unhappy women.
3. The man I loved for several years who turned around and decided I didn’t fit into his life anymore after I said I would spend mine with him. I really do wish he finds a way to open up his heart and let love in.
4. My best friend’s ex-husband, who continues to bully her and make her life miserable. Give it up already and move on.
5. The coach that emotionally beat down my son so badly he actually lost his love and passion for his sport.
I bring up these examples because I am guessing everyone who reads this has had at least one similar experience in their lives. I want to tell you not to dwell on it or let it fester. Don’t let it define you. Move past it, and put the person on your Karma List. They will get what they deserve. I have seen it happen.
A curious thing happened today. I felt gratitude for my ex-husband. I know shocking right? It is almost unheard of that anyone can feel a positive feeling towards one’s ex. This feeling and revelation that it is possible caused an emotional change in me. Here is what happened and ways you too can make peace with your ex-husband for yourself and your kids.
Anger is one of the most primal and powerful emotions we have. It comes from a place of instinctual survival when we feel threatened and feel the need to defend and protect ourselves. Fear lies beneath the anger and fuels it’s blaze. Anger is one of the most difficult emotions to control because it is not only a basic coping mechanism, but causes physical effects on the brain. According to Harry Mills Ph.D,