So many men and women I meet have a huge ability to love and be loved, however, shut themselves down and don’t allow it. They are able to connect with a significant other in every way and are very good at making it seem they are moving forward in a direction of commitment until the point they are actually asked about it by their partner. They are lacking one very important quality. The ability to open up their hearts and minds to becoming a part of a relationship. I believe these type of people have several reasons in common that stop them from being able to make a commitment to another person.
“How do I know if I’m in the right relationship or not?”
This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance:
I was talking to a good friend at a party last night, and he asked me a very cool question. He asked, “What are your thoughts on the sexual issues between couples married twenty years”.
I answered this:
After being in the dating world for the past eight years I still can not figure out the game. I have had several relationships in the last 8 years that were great, and for lots of reasons did not work out. However, as far as ongoing dating goes I am still clueless. Maybe I completely miss the cues? Possibly, however, being trained in human behavior I don’t think that is quite it. Several times now I have been asked out on a first date or set up by a friend.
We hit it off, and immediately he asks me out for a second date, which is set for within the same week.